Life can be expounded as a journey and we all have goals that we want to achieve in our life. But what is a more important journey or the Goals? How do we decide that? Think!
Every day is unpredictable, nothing goes according to the BIG PLANS we make. But the journey and goals both depend on the personality we have and sometimes the partner we choose changes our goals or rather inspires our journey by modifying our goals. Thus making it very crucial to choose our fellow travelers wisely to smoothen the journey. In the process, the key element is Intellectual compatibility between the individuals.
Before jumping on the wagon, let's stroll about the concept and understand the meaning of Intellectual compatibility. The standard definition is that Intellectual compatibility is one of the many forms of compatibility that strengthen interpersonal relationships. The word strikes a heavy tone with a strong base. Let's go through the phrase independently. Intellectual- late Middle English: from Latin intellectuals, from intellectuals‘ understanding’, from intelligence ‘understand’ (see intelligent). Latin suggests understanding but In Modern English- it suggests a person possessing a highly developed intellect, defying the genesis but simplifying the half mystery around. The other part which is Compatibility in the picture suggests- a state in which two things can exist or occur together without problems. Passing the genesis, let's see in particular what it means in materiality.
WHAT DOES INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY MEAN IN A RELATIONSHIP?
Intellectual compatibility is when both folks are mentally stimulated by the same conversations and have the Intellectual capacity to indulge in deep conversations, mutually interested in each other's company. It can be defined as the intimacy of both individuals which is not about just being physical or emotional with your partner but beyond that. You can picture it as the two rivers in GULF OF ALASKA which do not mix but enjoy their existence independently.
Both have their attributes but come out as splendid beauty which perfectly matches their sphere. Giving a slight scientific clue the water do not mix because of the different water temperature in each river. Similarly in a relationship, whether it's marriage or dating, intellectual compatibility maintains the balance of the system which perfectly matches the small world of the partners. Intellectual compatibility in a marriage can be different from intellectual compatibility in dating because both have different aromas and stench which can either balance or imbalance the system.
INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY IN DATING VS. INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY IN MARRIAGE:
The start of any relationship is dating which is the commitment for a shorter period then furthers into a lifelong commitment. The cerebral equality that we like in our partners is way beyond the physical attraction which is the commencement of dating from so many generations.
While dating a partner we certainly have a list of parameters that we want to check out our Intellectual compatibility list. Exploring every idealistic horizon of being a perfect couple we get to understand that UNDERSTANDING one stance is the basic compatibility one can live with.
The connection one can have with their partner fulfilling the intelligence gap of each other and deep diving into each other's river can be intriguing after a certain period matching the vibe of the perfectly matched temperatures. This continuance effort and time in dating a partner invoke mentally stimulated discussions and we get hinged to their personality wanting a permanent taste of the experience. Intellectual compatibility in dating only affects the two people, but intellectual compatibility in marriage is more than just being with your partner. The endless turmoil in the relationship comes with the responsibility of the people around. The company enjoyment is not the sole motto left but the contribution to make it work and handle the pressures of the journey together. The continuity becomes the fulcrum of your see-saw!
DOES INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY MATTER IN THE RELATIONSHIP?
YES, OF COURSE! A similar interest is the need of the relationship and can be said to be the common subset of the main set. The commonality in the relationship is the point where partners stand together unraveling the tangled strands of the relationship. When we talk about intellectual compatibility we do not speak about intelligent partners together or partners with the same amount of intelligence. We talk about intelligence or understanding at their level perfectly matching each other's intellectual capacity. The urge for interesting conversations apart from the physical desires, the happiness one finds when together with their partner. The ethics of life that they have in common make them respect each other to follow or get followed to contribute to their living space. Attractive qualities like perseverance, humility, attentiveness, and honesty defy the stringent rules of attraction in a partner. To understand this let's take an example of needle and thread, opposite personalities with their intelligence gap fulfilling their passion together resulting in a unique piece of art.
Thus making every relationship a peculiar one setting a precedent for an exemplary Compatible Couple. Every relationship requires time to get to a certain level of intellectual compatibility improvising the scope of freshness in their relationship.
To move to the next level of your relationship let's see what signals make you intellectually compatible with your partner.
9 SIGNS YOU ARE INTELLECTUALLY COMPATIBLE WITH YOUR PARTNER
Here are the signs perceived which make you intellectually compatible with your partner.
TOGETHER ACTIVITY :
The common activity which you and your partner enjoy doing together. It can comprise anything eg- reading books together, watching movies, similar taste in music, a similar ounce of madness at certain points, traveling, cooking, cleaning, eating together at least once a day or whenever you both like, even just being idle and doing nothing. Any activity that you think has a togetherness or even an effort to be together by any one of the partners, Bingo! you are intellectually compatible. The effort to spend time with each other. Do not search for any ideal or reputed activities, anything you and your partner appreciate should not get hanged by the EXPECTATIONS of society.
2. YOU LEARN FROM EACH OTHER:
” Don't think you know everything unless your name is GOOGLE”. Everyone has the wisdom they acquire either from life experiences or from the people they meet. No one knows everything about everything. Everyone learns and thus if you or your partner are learning the ways around the world from each other then definitely you are intellectually compatible. You are ready to enhance your intellectual capacity and contribute to the partnership.
3. DEEP CONVERSATIONS :
We have numerous thoughts each day about the surroundings we live in, the surroundings we have lived in, or the surroundings we want to live in. The unexpected encounter of unpredictable incidents comes naturally or bizarrely to us which we want to discuss with our partner. It need not be a huge stone in our way but even a tiny one can take you and your partner into the deep ocean. Then YES you are intellectually compatible with your partner. Remember QUALITY matters, not QUANTITY, so even if it's small talk but purposeful it is a sign of a healthy relationship.
4. FRIENDLY BANTER!
Do you wonder why flowers like Rose, Bougainvillea, or Duranta have thorns on their stems? With exquisite color, odor, and patterns why thorns? The answer is” Plants have thorns to deter herbivores (animals that eat plants) from eating the leaves that the plant puts so much energy into making. This type of defense is known as a physical defense because the plant physically defends against herbivores by poking them.
Let me make it SIMPLE! IT PROTECTS THEM.
Similarly, in relationships, if you have arguments, conflicts, and debates on topics that are controversial and sometimes painful to deal with, then these painful thorns protect your relationship, and the romance is not destroyed by unnecessary misunderstandings or we can say presumptions.
If you argue, don't be scared you are with an intellectual companion, who has a lot to offer to your plate.
5. YOU CAN BE NATURAL AROUND YOUR PARTNER
“The inner child which is present in everyone is not for everyone”. We pretend every day, the only difference is that for some it's for a little while, and for some, it's for a longer period. After a long day, we want there should be a person whom we don't need to be something else, that everyday camouflage wants to lie on the luggage rack with the rest of the accessories we carry the entire day.
Take it slow, If you find yourself undraped in front of your partner not physically but mentally, emotionally, or spiritually and You are liked for you then, YES.
The comfort zone you can rely on and Home is not a place anymore it's a person.
6. YOU HAVE A LIVELY RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER:
When we say lively, then it suggests that partners are not bored in their relationship. You are enjoying and excited about the time you spend with your partner. The spark is still there making your relationship refreshing. A pleasant feeling is present and you love to engage in your partner's company. The monotony of your hardships is burned by the liveliness of your intellectual partner.
7. YOU GIVE SPACE TO YOUR PARTNER TO GROW
The required amount of space in a relationship plays a vital role in the progress of the relationship. Everyone has their own pace at which they grow and individual growth as partners is very important to sustain and survive. This space gives you knowledge about your partner, likes or dislikes, it helps you understand and observe your partner which also helps you to deal with the shortcomings and fill the intelligence gap with your intellectual attributes. No one knows the right amount of space but this effort certainly makes you understand the right time.
8. YOU RESPECT AND SUPPORT YOUR PARTNER:
“ Respect is the greatest expression of love”. Respecting your partner makes your bond strong and long-lasting. You support your partner in every way possible. Both respect and support demand patience which comes with a fruitful outcome.
If you are doing it already then you are a patient partner no one wants to part with.
9. YOU ARE A GREAT LISTENER
Everyone has an opinion these days, but as a partner, if you want to listen to your partner then this is one of the most underrated attributes one can find in their partner. Sometimes listening can be the solution to most of your relationship problems.
If you are even able to check out one in this list, you are already there.
If not then you can start and take this as a guide to reinvent your relationship and be an intellectual partner improve your intellectual compatibility and match your intellectual capacity. Thus building intellectual compatibility with your partner.
WRAPPING UP
Every relationship is unique and even if you do not find yourself in the crowd of this charade, do not panic. Taking the example of previous generations, it is all about fitting in your shoe size. They never ponder on the shortcomings but work it out in their way, similarly, you can work out as well according to your experience and capability. YOU AND ONLY YOU CAN DO WHAT YOU DO!
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